Wanted: Victim at Large


The predator lurks for its next victim… don’t let it be YOU!

People coming from abuse relationships normally find it hard to restore their tainted self-esteem. Thus the cycle of getting “victimized” on their next relationships goes on and on. They continue to be preyed upon and abused. Why? This is because they don’t know how to break free from their cages. They find it hard to regain their lost identities and just settle for the “pity-me” mentality.

Victims and Preys

People who are victims of any relationship are also like preys waiting to be devoured. They do nothing. They feel so small and powerless that they just wait for their fate and let ugly things happen to them. Yes, they run and try to break free from their bondages, but then again, they quit. And they go back to their usual state of being a prey.

So, how do we end this predator-prey chase? How do we stop being the “victim” in any relationship? Results911 suggests we follow these three (3) simple steps:


It is a given that many victims are in denial. STOP! In any problem, the first thing that you should do is to admit that there is a problem. You should stop denying to yourself, and to others, that you are in a tough situation. Move forward and face the real problem in front of you. Admit that YOU HAVE A PROBLEM. By doing so, it will be easier for you to find solutions in any difficult relationship situations that you will be facing.


As the famous Aretha Franklin’s song R-E-S-P-E-C-T goes, you should find out what this word means to you: SELF-RESPECT. It is the cultivating factor that will help you regain your self-esteem. Acknowledge that you are also human, that you are unique and special, and that other people should also think highly of you.

Change should start from within. Respect yourself. Only then will you be able to STAND UP and face the world and say, “Hey, I’m a beautiful person. I love myself. I respect myself. You out there ought to respect me as well.”

3)     SEEK HELP

It is a fact that sometimes, when the past relationship bondages were so powerful, we cannot do or change things on our own. That is when we need to seek help.

Dr. Jennifer Eve Alexander’s Results911 suggests seek friends who are willing to walk with you side by side in your journey to breaking free from your victim mentality.

We hope these simple tips help you become a new person: VICTORIOUS and NOT VICTIMS!


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